Hostess Gift Etiquette: How to Show Your Appreciation
When you're invited to someone's home for a dinner party, holiday gathering, or any event, bringing a hostess gift is a sweet way to show your appreciation for the host’s efforts. But what exactly is the etiquette for giving a hostess gift? Here’s a guide to help you navigate this thoughtful gesture with grace and style.
When Should You Bring a Hostess Gift?
It’s customary to bring a hostess gift when attending any gathering hosted in someone’s home. Whether it’s a casual dinner party, a festive holiday celebration, or a backyard barbecue, a small token of appreciation can go a long way in expressing your gratitude for being included in the event. If you are contributing to the meal you do not need an additional gift.
Choosing the Perfect Hostess Gift
The key to selecting a great hostess gift is to choose something thoughtful and appropriate for the host. It does not have to be expensive or complicated. Here are a few ideas:
Bottle of Wine: A classic choice, especially if you know the host enjoys wine.
Gourmet Treats: A box of high-quality chocolates, a jar of artisanal honey, or a tin of specialty tea can be a nice treat for the host to enjoy after the event.
Herbs from your garden: It’s not only beautiful tied with twine but also smells incredible.
Flowers in a Vase: If you decide to bring flowers, it’s considerate to have them pre-arranged in a vase. This way, the host doesn’t have to take time away from their guests to find a vase and arrange the flowers. I love to cut roses from my garden.
Small Plants: A potted herb or a small houseplant like a succulent can be a charming and lasting gift that the host can enjoy long after the event.
Your favorite Cookbook: I love to tie with twine and add a sprig of rosemary
Breakfast for the Morning After the Event: Yogurt & Granola, unbaked cinnamon rolls or muffins and fresh fruit
Gifts to Avoid
While it’s the thought that counts, there are a few types of gifts that might unintentionally create extra work or stress for the host:
Items That Require Immediate Attention: Gifts that require the host to act immediately, like flowers that need arranging or food that needs to be prepared or served, can be more of a burden than a blessing.
Food Items with Potential Allergens or Dietary Restrictions: If you’re not sure about the host’s dietary preferences or restrictions, it’s best to avoid food items altogether or opt for a universally safe choice.
Presentation is Key
How you present your hostess gift can make a big difference. A nicely wrapped gift or a beautiful gift bag adds an extra touch of thoughtfulness. You know my love for twine and a sprig of rosemary. For homemade treats, a pretty box or tin can make your gift feel even more special.
Timing and Delivery
The best time to present your hostess gift is upon arrival or shortly after greeting the host. This allows the host to acknowledge your gift without being interrupted during the event. If you’re unsure when to present the gift, follow the host’s cues, and hand it over when there’s a natural pause in the activity.
Add a Personal Touch
Including a small handwritten note with your gift can add a personal touch that shows you’ve put thought into your gesture. A simple message expressing your gratitude for the invitation and looking forward to a wonderful time can make your gift even more meaningful.
Follow-Up After the Event
If the event was particularly special, consider sending a follow-up thank-you note or message the next day. This simple gesture can further express your appreciation for the host’s hospitality and effort. I’m terrible at this, but I have a friend who never fails to send me a thank you note after each event and it never fails to make me smile.
Bringing a hostess gift is a small but meaningful way to show your appreciation when you’re invited to someone’s home. By choosing a thoughtful gift and presenting it with care, you’ll not only express your gratitude but also contribute to the hospitality of the occasion. Remember, it’s the thought and effort behind the gift that matters. Happy gifting!
